Every woman yearns for financial independence as well as self-stability as a woman. The feeling of being able to operate as an individual without the dependence on a man is a thrilling as well as encouraging sensation for every woman be it young or old.
There exists a popular refrain and stereotype that “Akazi amakonda ndalama” (Women Love Money). How far true this is must definitely be a topic for another day since everyone speaks out of either experience or pure speculation but it still remains a negative phrase that is used to disparage women and refrain them for opportunities of all kinds (economic, political and social). One could assume that women have materialistic instincts that ensure continuity of mankind but it is a point that is strongly considered an opinion.
When it comes to choosing a mate, women tend to ‘maximise their potential of genetic contribution to future generations’. Both men and women do this; it is inborn and is a part of the natural selection theory. While men maximise their genetic contribution by choosing women possessing cues of youthful beauty and fertility, women do this by partnering with men with resources as well as the vital ability to conduct themselves as men, so as to maximise the survival prospects of their descendants.
As you can see, women are clearly considering the future of those that remain dear to them and in this case being their children. Hence, financial security and stability cannot be overlooked. The same way you would invest in a business that is showing potential of survival and growth is the same way a woman would look at how much you earn as a way of ensuring adequate returns.
This should teach all men that your reaction to this pure usage of logic should not be criticism and despise but it should be a motivation to everyone to keep working hard so as to ensure that such a point should not restrict them from marrying the one that they truly love.
In the modern progressive society, women are taking up careers that were previously dominated by men. Women are able to secure financial stability in their own right. But folks, one thing still remains; married women still expect their men to provide for the family somehow. Some women don’t mind if the man is earning less than them as long as he still takes his leadership role and contributes to the family’s well-being, even with the little he gets.
It is evident from my experience, through the counselling sessions, that women are put off by men who though able-boded, are lazy, unambitious, lack vision and are financially reckless. Such folk are caught on the wrong side of the natural selection process and threaten the very materialistic instinct women have of ensuring the survival of the children and generations.
My name is Grace Khonje
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